Online Friends Can Be Hazardous To Your Health

10106221_H10513785-600x450Nicole Cable left home on May 12, she told her family that she was heading out to see someone she’d met on Facebook. The high School sophomore never came home.

A 20 year old man faces charges in her death after a body believed to be the missing teen’s was found in a wooded area north of Bangor.

Kyle Dube of Orono was charged with murder Tuesday, a day after the remains were found in Old Town, Maine State police  Lt. Christopher Coleman said at a news conference.

Police declined to reveal the circumstances of her death; describe her relationship with Dube or discuss the evidence they have against him. Nor was it clear whether her Facebook relationship had anything to do with her disappearance and homicide.

More details were expected to emerge once police submit an affidavit of probable cause, which could happen as early as Wednesday, when Dube is due to make his first court appearance in the case.

Dube was already in jail serving a sentence for fleeing police on a motorcycle at more than 100 mph according to State police. Stephen McCausland a State police spokesman said investigators believe Dube is solely responsible for her death.

On a more personal note, my sister in law told me last night that her step-son (my nephew) is online all the time and she wants me to talk to him. I wouldn’t know what to say because as his uncle that lives in another country, I am not in a position to get involved. Parents it is your responsibility to keep your kids out of harms way online and offline.

 

 

 

 

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Does The Death Penalty Deter Criminals?

10845789-largeWhen death penalty expert Judy Clarke joined the defense team for the unabomber, Ted Kaczynski, she spent month trying to establish a rapport so she could convince him to accept a plea deal that would spare him capital punishment. “I think she has a real gift”, David Kaczynski, his brother said on Tuesday, a day after Clarke was assigned to the defense team for the Boston Marathon Bombing suspect Dzhkhar Tsarnaev. “Even if it’s the smallest sliver of common ground, Judy’s going to be able to find. There is no doubt in my mind that Judy saw my brother’s humanity despite the terrible things he’d done.”

Tsarnaev, age 19, is accused of setting off explosives on April 15th near the finish line of the Boston Marathon with his older brother Tamerlan, killing three and injuring 264. He was arrested on April 19th after a massive manhunt that left his brother dead following a police shootout.  Tsarnaev faces charges of using a weapon of mass destruction and malicious destruction of property with an explosive device. Both can carry the death penalty.  He has not yet entered a plea.  The U.S. prosecutors have not said whether they will seek capital punishment.

In court papers, asking a judge to appoint defense attorney Clarke as a public defender, one of  Tsarnaev lawyers’ Miriam Conrad, cited a Federal Law giving defendants in potential capital cases a right to an attorney with experience handling death penalty cases.

Clarke defended Eric Rudolph, the 1996 Atlanta Olympics bomber, Susan Smith (who drowned her young sons in 1994) and Jared Loughner who killed six and critically wounded congressman Gabrielle Giffords in the brain in January 2011. All were spared the death penalty by Clarke showing the killer’s humanity.

Should society care about a terrorist or murderer’s humanity? Isn’t killing a fellow human being the definition of inhumanity?

I’m not hard hearted in the least, but when a terrorist premeditates a bombing or a murderer premeditates his or her murders, I don’t care if he or she loved their mommy.

The issue is if the death penalty is a deterrent to crime? States with the death penalty do not have lower crime rates. This does not make sense, unless one is suicidal.

It comes down to morality. Should society kill the murderer’s  or should we subsidize them for life? I don’t see the point of a life sentence for a terrorist or a premeditated murderer, they won’t be rehabilitated back into society.

What is your opinion? Please post your opinion on this issue or a dispute on PeacePazPaix.com.

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Co-workers To Enemies

2441198_GThe investigation into poisoned letters mailed to President Obama and others has shifted from an Elvis impersonator to his nemesis. Investigators are determining if their online feud has escalated into something more sinister. Paul Kevin Curtis, age 45, was released from a North Mississippi jail on Tuesday and charges against him were dropped, nearly a week after authorities charged him in sending Ricin laced letters to President Obama, Republican U.S. Senator Roger Wicker and  80 year old Lee County Mississippi Justice court judge Saydie Holland.

Before Curtis left jail authorities had already descended on the home of 41 year old Everett Dutschke in Tupelo, a north East Mississippi town best known as the birth place of the King himself. On Wednesday they searched the sight of Tupelo marshal arts studio once operated by  Dutschke, who hasn’t been arrested or charged. Wednesday evening, Hazmat teams packed up and left Dutschke’s business. He was at the scene at times during the day.
A woman drove off in a green Dodge caravan parked on the street that had been searched. Daniel McMullen, FBI special agent in charge of Mississippi declined to speak with the reporters.

After being released from jail on Tuesday, Curtis who performs as Elvis and other celebrities described a bizarre year long feud between the two, but Dutschke insisted he had nothing to do with the letters. They contained language identical to that found on Curtis’ Facebook page and other websites making him an early suspect.

Curtis said he’s not sure exactly what led to the bad blood. It involves the men’s time working together, a broken promise to help with a book by Curtis and an acrimonious exchange of emails according to Curtis.

The two worked together at Curtis’ brothers’ insurance office years ago, Curtis said. He said Dutschke told him he owned a newspaper and showed interest in publishing his book. Dutschke decided not to publish the material, Curtis alleged and later began stalking Curtis online. Dutschke said,  ” the last time I had contact with Curtis was in 2010 when I threatened to sue him for fraud for posting a fake Mensa certificate.”

Curtis acknowledges posting a fake Mensa certificate on Facebook, but says, ” it was an online trap for Dutschke because he believed Dutschke was stalking him online. ”

This is certainly an extreme case of a co-worker relationship gone bizarrely out of hand. There are many lessons to learn from this unfortunate scenario. The most important lesson is to deal with a conflict as soon as it begins. Avoiding a conflict will not make it go away, all it will do is intensify it. The best way to handle a conflict is to ask the other party to arrange a mutually beneficial time and place to discuss the conflict. If the other party denies the conflict, tell them what you feel and ask them what they feel? That should bring the issue to the surface. After it’s on the surface, you can take the steps to resolve it, i.e. finding common ground and solutions to your conflict.

In this case apologizing for the online stalking by Curtis and apologizing for the false promise to publish Curtis’ book by Dutschke is the start of resolving this conflict.

If you have any questions about a conflict, post them on PeacePazPaix.com.

 

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Sex Crimes On A 5 Year Old Girl

India Gang RapeA second suspect was arrested Monday in the rape of a five year old girl who New Delhi police says was left for dead in a locked room. This case has brought a new wave of protest against how Indian Authorities handle sex crimes. The two men are accused of abducting, raping and attempting to murder the five year old who went missing April 15th and was found two days later by neighbors who heard crying in a locked room in the same New Delhi building where she lives with her family. The girl was alone when she was found. The girl was in critical condition when she was transferred Thursday from a local hospital to the largest government run hospital in the country.
For the second day, hundreds of people protested outside police headquarters in the capital. Angry over allegations that police failed to act after the girl’s parents told them she was missing. Sexual crimes against women and children are reported everyday in India’s newspapers and women complain about feeling insecure when they leave their homes.

The December gang rape on a New Delhi bus has sparked outrage and spurred the government to pass tough laws for crimes against women, including the death penalty for repeat offenders or for rape attacks that lead to the victim’s death.

Sex crimes are not endemic to India, they happen in Europe, Asia, the Middle East, and the Americas. What is different is that in India people are protesting the sex crimes and the handling of them.

Have you been the victim of sexual abuse, verbal or emotional abuse? How did you handle it at the time? How do you handle it now?

I think that verbal and emotional abuse should be criminal. Do you agree?

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Life As Usual?

Boston MarathonI went out to take the pulse on the street in Jerusalem regarding Boylston Street. http://youtu.be/I0Qh8tJhVRg

On April 15th 2013, the Boston Marathon was attacked with two pressure cooker bombs, killing three people and injuring 183 others. The Bombs had been placed near the finish line, along Boylston Street. They detonated at 2:49pm EDT, 12 seconds apart.  No warning had been given and no terrorist group has claimed responsibility for the bombing. The F.B.I. is leading the investigation.

I lived in Boston for a couple of years, so I have a special fondness for this city. Obviously, any terrorist attack is one too many. How sad that we’re living in a time when one cannot compete or attend a sporting event. What do terrorists think, that the world will stop attending sporting events? What is their objective in bombing innocent people? Certainly the civilized world does not respect bombing innocent people. This type of cowardly attack does not garner respect nor followers among normal people.

I’m visiting Israel at the moment for work. Unfortunately, Israel has all too much experience in cowardly terrorist attacks. Israel is helping Boston with the investigation of the bombing. God willing there won’t be any more terrorist attacks in Israel or the U.S.

Will people be afraid to travel or to attend sporting events and other entertainment events out of fear of an attack? I hope not. If the world changes its’ behavior out of fear, the terrorists have won. That scenario is unthinkable.  Let’s pray for peace and spread the message of peace on PeacePazPaix.com.  Will you change your lifestyle? How?

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Why Be Independent?

469px-Remington_A_cracker_cowboyAs an American I grew up with the concept of independence, 1776 is the year America became an independent country. America was a colony of Britain and the folks living in America wanted to cut the strings, make their own decisions and determine their own faith. On a national level, that certainly works, on a personal level – not so much.
People need people as the song goes. I’m a westerner and I reckon myself an independent sort, ie. the cowboy type. Even cowboys have to deal with bankers and beef buyers.

On the relationship level, there are those that need and want independence. That only works if the other(s) in the relationship want(s) independence as well. If one party wants independence and the other party does not, the relationship will not work harmoniously. The most harmonious state in a relationship is inter-dependence, meaning both parties have their space (independence) but they also want to do things together.
The time spent apart and the time spent together have to be worked out together, if not resentment leads to conflict.

If you are having conflicts about a lack of space ( i.e. a healthy relationship) you need to sit down in a neutral place and discuss your feelings and boundaries in a non-accusatory manner. If the other party feels nurtured and supported they will give you the space that you need. You need to reassure the other party that it’s not personal nor have your feelings changed. Tell them quite the contrary. The relationship will grow closer and last longer if it is healthy.

If the other party feels threatened by giving you healthy space (i.e. time alone) ask them if you both can speak with a neutral third party i.e. a therapist, or a clergy person to help.

I’m available for conflict resolution via phone or Skype.

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Why Is There War?

korean warThe world is on edge about the threat of a nuclear attack from North Korea. The first thing to ask is why they’d want to attack South Korea, Japan and the U.S.? I’m not an historian, nor do I know the history of the Koreas. All I know is that in 1950, ” the war”  was between the Republic of South Korea supported by the U.S. and the Democratic People’s Republic of Korea supported by China and the Soviet Union.

It was primarily the result of the political division of Korea by an agreement of the victorious allies at the conclusion of the Pacific War at the end of World War II. The Korean peninsula was ruled by Japan from 1910 until the end of World War II.  Following the surrender of the Empire of Japan in September 1945. The Americans divided the peninsula along the 38th parallel with the U.S. forces occupying the southern half and the Soviet military forces occupying the northern half. The failure to hold free elections that established the Korean peninsula in 1948 deepened the division between the two sides. The North established the communist government and the South established a right wing government. The 38th parallel became a political border between the two states. The cross border skirmishes led to North Korean forces invaded South Korea on June 25th 1945. The war ended with North Korea and South Korea going back to the 38th parallel.

The war was pointless, since it yielded no result.

On a personal level we have disputes that can escalate into wars based on history. If you resolve a dispute with open channels of communications, active listening, and solutions that are mutually acceptable, you can resolve your disputes and change your history. Remember to talk respectfully even when old historical wounds are open. With respect and true desire by both sides to resolve the dispute, you can heal and even close those old wounds.

 

 

 

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Why Pray?

prayer-on-my-knees4I’ve been thinking about prayer a lot lately. I happen to be in Israel for a t.v. project. Living in the “Holy Land” forces me to reflect on my religious observance.  I’m not a religious person as such, but I do believe in God.  I just don’t think it’s possible that we have a sun that grows our food and gives us light by accident. Not to mention all the other factors that make life possible such as rain and soil that can grow our food.

My dilemma is that when I go to pray with others I get turned off to God, because of people walking around as if they’re outside a surgical ward pacing back and forth where they are talking to their friends.

Why pray? Does God answer prayers? Or does praying just make us feel good, like talking to grandma or grandpa? I suppose it depends if one’s prayers are answered. For those faithful, there’s the concept of God doing only good (it’s all good). That’s a tough one to swallow.

I believe that prayer is a form of mediation. One can meditate alone, which I prefer or one can meditate with others but you have to be lucky which crowd you get. Meditation helps me center and I suppose that helps me connect to others. If I’m not centered, I don’t connect well with others. And that is what life is all about.

There’s nothing wrong with praying for conflict resolution or anything for that matter, as long as you are proactive.

 

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Why Connect To The Holocaust?

I’m in Jerusalem on Yom Ha Shoah, Holocaust Remembrance Day.

All the stores were closed last night when we were walking back from work. I had no idea what was going on. There was no holiday that I knew about. My assistant called her landlord to find out what was going on. Her landlord told her that it was Yom Ha-Shoah. I was dumbfounded.

All the stores close to remember the Holocaust. We ran to the outdoor market to see if there were any food stands still open. We lucked out; there was a fruit stand  and vegetable stand still open.

After dinner, I suggested to my assistant that we watch a Holocaust movie to get in touch with the honor of the day. I fell asleep missing the entire movie.

I walked my assistant home thinking how do I connect to the Holocaust and why? My immediate family survived although my dad was sent to work as a physician at a forced labor camp (a slave camp).

In the morning when my assistant arrived, I wanted to tell her that I did have family that were murdered in the Holocaust. I didn’t tell her, because I don’t remember how they were related.

At 10 AM this morning, the siren honoring the six million people that were murdered in the Holocaust sounded for one minute. My assistant and I stood up in silence and I felt connected to all the people that were murdered and to all the survivors of the Holocaust.

I would not be writing this blog, if my parents did not survive the Holocaust.

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Is theThe U.N. Arms Treaty P.R.?

optech1The U.N.  passed the first treaty regulating the international arms trade.

The 193 nation U.N. General Assembly on Tuesday overwhelmingly approved the treaty to regulate the 70 billion dollars annual business in conventional arms to keep weapons out of the hands of human rights abusers. The U.S. voted in favor of the treaty.

North Korea, Syria and Iran were the only countries that voted against the treaty- no surprise there. Major arms producers; China and Russia joined Cuba, Bolivia and Nicaragua in abstaining.

I obviously want to be safe but I agree with the National Rifle Association in opposing the treaty. It’s an unrealistic treaty. How can the U.N. enforce international arms trading?

I differ with the N.R.A. in terms of the treaty’s infringing on the Second Amendment’s right to bear arms. The U.S. is the largest manufacturer of arms. Most Americans buy American arms. In theory, I agree with the treaty. In reality, it’s the U.N. pretending to be the global cop, which it has shown that it cannot do, i.e. in Lebanon, Sudan, Bosnia etc…

Let the U.N. start by confiscating the arms of the terrorists on the Syrian border with Israel.

 

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